Single and Loving Every Minute of It.

Hey World,
        So lately, this topic has been coming up quite a bit in my life. Whether in church, TV, or conversations with friends, the topic of being single has been popping its confusing head up everywhere. So in Vic-type-fashion I will address it.
I was recently asked if I ever get the "sick of being single feeling"...My answer is this, have I ever sat alone by myself wishing I had someone to sit and chat with?...Yes I have, Its natural to, but do I wish I wasn't single? No! However as usual Ive over thought and metaphoricized the whole discussion...and here it is. Ive had a bunch of relationship drama of my own. I know what its like to want a girlfriend, find a girl, and make her my girlfriend. I know what not single feels like. Which is why I say single feels so much better. You might say, "Vic, of course you think that your a young attractive guy". to that I say this....SO WHAT!!! Single isn't good because I can do more, Single is Great because while doing less, I can focus on getting to know myself and becoming a better me. See, when your in a relationship its all about the other person, you say you give them everything and are completely theirs. My question is. How can you give someone all of you when you dont even even know who all of you is? Have you ever truly spent time with yourself? Have you taken time to develop your own standards and opinions? Have you figured out your dreams and goals in life? Have you reached any of those goals?  Single people wonder why their single. They wonder why "no one wants them". Their Facebook statuses are all dark and emotional. Why? What is the point? Your just making more people not want you. Why, Because you don't even want yourself!! It has taken me a while to figure this out. I've been through strings of relationships, hardships, and unnecessary hurts to get to this point. One thing I have come to see is that, yes I may have a few things to offer, and no I can not fix every ones problems. However, I can fix my own problems and offer myself the best of me. There is nothing wrong with loving who you are and getting to know yourself before getting into a relationship.
     If I could make this plain and simple id say this. When you were younger, you wanted to drive so bad. Why? Because you wanted to go places and see new things, but your parents and the law said you couldn't drive yet, you were too young. Did they say that because of your age? No, It was because you weren't ready for everything that comes with driving. Safety, gas, money for gas, a job to make money, bills, responsibilities, you were not ready. So, you waited until you were ready and able to understand those things about yourself and the things around you. Only then were you allowed to drive. Relationships are the same way. You think your ready because you just want to go places and see new things. You haven't even even given thought to the parts of yourself that are vulnerable when you drive into a relationship, because you don't know those parts about yourself. That my friends is what single-hood is for. Take time to get to know yourself, what you want, and where you want to go in life, and not only will your single life be better and more fulfilling, but your dating/married life will also be that much better.


                                                  Just a thought World
                                                                   -Vic